Hey, girl I see you. You know that image you’re trying to uphold? The one that tells everyone you’re okay, you’ve got it all together, you don’t need anybody for anything…yeah, that feeling where something bothers you and you stuff it down, way deep where no one can touch it. Then something else happens. Another hurt. Another angry word. Another disrespectful comment. Another complaint. Wound after wound. And you stuff more. And more and more and more.
All of that hiding and burying and not facing your feelings…one day that is going to come bursting forth like water held back by a dam that one day suddenly breaks. Waves of emotions, hurts, fears, all of the stuff you’ve been trying to hide will come crashing through and you won’t be able to stop it.
How do I know? ‘Cause I’ve done it. I have been hurt. Not everything in my life is rosy, and I know that might be hard to believe because of what you see in public. But you know what happens when a lot of people know your name? A lot of people that like to hurt people, or that don’t think about what they’re saying, they know your name. And you can’t stop them from saying or commenting whatever they want.
Then there is the fear. What if something happens to dad? What if my kids aren’t safe? Are they eating the right foods? Do I spend enough time with them? Is my marriage okay?
Then those people that know your name start talking about your family, your kids, your marriage.
Stuff. Stuff. Stuff.
Why am I writing this? It’s a little depressing, right? Here is why: because you need LIGHT. If we allow ourselves to hang out in the dark, or to stuff it down until it inevitably comes out, we will be in a heap of trouble. It will not only affect us, but it will affect everyone that knows us. So all the time we’ve been thinking we can’t bother somebody else with what we’re feeling, with our hurt, with our anger, they are still going to deal with it when it becomes a way bigger issue.
I want to help you. I have an awesome boutique and it’s fun to shop. But my business is so much more than that. I have known countless women that pretend like everything is okay when it’s not. So let me be the one to tell you:
Stop the stuffing. Stop the darkness. There is no shame and embarrassment in asking for help. Make that appointment with the specialist. Go to that marriage counselor. Call your friend and ask to meet for coffee, and spill your heart out. Tell that guy at work he can’t treat you that way anymore, and you will. not. stand. for. it.
LET THE LIGHT IN.
God knows our minds are fragile. Sometimes we don’t know it, but the human mind can get hurt and bruised and injured by the most delicate things. It’s okay. IT’S OKAY! I will never stand in judgment of you, and neither will God. So there – you already have two friends who are for you!
Open your Bible. Seek God’s truth. Not the world’s opinion. GOD’S TRUTH. As in, He will never leave you or forsake you. Even though you may walk in the valley of the shadow of death, you don’t have to fear evil. Your God is for you. Not against you. If the God of the universe is for you, who can be against you?
Don’t be ashamed. If you need to seek medical attention, or talk to a psychologist, do it. Call now. God is with you. It might not be easy, but His Spirit will guide you every step of the way – all you need to do is simply ask.
And know that I may have never met you in person, but I am so, so proud of you.